I got the chance to read a free copy of Stop Reacting and Start Responding™ by Sharon Silver, parenting educator. It’s a helpful books with 108 ways to deal with different areas with your children. It gives some wonderful tips on responding to different situations. Example instead of avoiding things that upset the kids, Silver gives ideas on how to work with it. I’ll admit that’s something I don’t do, I avoid it to go around the hassle, and a really hard time with one of the kids. It’s always come up “why not deal with it” well, with four kids, that’s not an easy thing to think about. The truth is, my kids need to do it, they need to know they can, and with my help they will succeed. Silver gives excellent tips to help the parents deal with things just like this in her book.
Living My MoMent and Proactive Parenting™ are joined forces with Sharon Silver and her new book – Stop Reacting and Start Responding™. Silver and Abbey Fatica, owner of Living My MoMent, LLC, invited bloggers to be a part of a live discussion on MomTV. I was able to be a part of the discussion where viewers had questions answered, whether on the spot or the ones we all sent in.
As parents we don’t get handbooks with our kids, they are all different of course but Sharon shared with us alot of tips, helpful ideas as well as facts that came behind some of the behaviors we deal with our kids. It was very helpful, my only regret was not having enough time and not being able to ask her more questions. I’m always looking for ways to deals with problems, and with four kids there’s plenty of them coming up one after another.
Patience is a major thing parents need to be flexible about, but not so much in discipline. Consistency is a must, the same as not reacting first. It’s the same common sense thing, stop, think than speak. If something happens and you react right away you didn’t think about it first. You may be upset, of course, that’s understandable, but we would be teaching our kids to do the same. React without ever thinking. We want our kids to stop, think and then carry out whatever it is they are doing. Whether homework, discussing, or a project they need to think first. If we all Responded to the problem with a positive attitude half the time the outcome would be better than responding first without thinking about it.
My kids take a lot out of me, it isn’t easy at all to deal with everything. Sometimes it is overwhelming but I’ve found changing the way I respond to things, changes the way they respond as well. Kids make mistakes all the time, so do parents, but we should take a better action of learning to dealing with the problem instead of how to make it go away. If I approach the situation differently, so do my children, in the end, we solve the probelm, and they have susseeded in dealing with it instead of ignoring it. Kids get a boost of self confidence, as well as the parent in being able do deal with it together.
Sharon Silver wrote Stop Reacting and Start Responding™, with helpful views, tips and dare I say guideness all parents should read. Not everything out there will work, but Silver’s book certainly gave me a different view of situations I’m dealing with, and so far they’ve all changed for the better, not saying they dissappeared, but in the long run it’s helping.
If you know a new parent, or soon to be, or have children of your own, I highly recommend this book. It’s worth your reading time and you never know you may take a lot more out of it then you thought you would. I have!
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*Disclosure- I participated in a Living My MoMent campaign for Proactive Parenting™ and have received the e-book Stop Reacting and Start Responding™ by Sharon Silver as part of my participation.” No other compensation was given, and all opinions are and always will be my own.Any and all opinions are and will always be my own. *